The Water Bowl

This is not a crisis. It is the client who keeps not doing the thing, or the supervisee burning the candle at both ends, or the person who is probably going to have to stumble before any of it lands.

You have already said what there is to say, and they are still taking up room in your head. The first two questions are about them, mostly so you can set them down. The rest is about you.

What's inside

1. Who is nagging at the back of your mind, and what is the part you cannot do for them?

2. What have you already offered?

   Small things count. If something genuinely got missed, go do that instead of finishing this page.

3. If a colleague brought you this exact situation, what would you say to them?

4. Now say it to yourself. What makes it harder to believe when it is aimed at you?

5. What does the nagging keep asking you to do that is not yours to do?

   Name it and leave it here on the page.

6. Where are you running low right now, and what would top it up this week?

   We reach in and take over when we are depleted. Staying resourced is not separate from the work, it is most of what keeps our hands off the wheel.

Caring how it turns out is not the same as being responsible for how it turns out.